One
of the first decisions you have to make after becoming engaged is deciding
where you would like your wedding ceremony and reception to take place.
You have literally hundreds of options. How do you narrow them down to the
most promising choices? To save time and stress, it's a good idea to spend
a few minutes together thinking about what kinds of locations you
might want for these back-to-back events. You may already have an idea of
a direction you want to go, but the following list of advantages and disadvantages
for each kind of facility may help bring more clarity to your decision-making
process.
For
the ceremony, you can choose to go to a church or a wedding chapel. A timelessly
beautiful church building is ideal to create a spiritual ambience for your
ceremony and to convey a sense to your friends and family-and each other-of
the sacredness of your union.
People
who don't want a religious or spiritual "backdrop" for their weddings may
choose instead to have their ceremony at the same place they're having their
reception. Others, especially those who love Colorado's mountains, may prefer
an outdoor location. Still others may choose to have a casual wedding and
reception at their home, or the home of a friend or family member.
Before
looking for places to get married, it's good to ask: what would be the location
of your dreams? You may think your dream location is too expensive,
but the information in this letter may surprise you. We'll will alert you
to possible "hidden" or unexpected expenses that often crop up when people
go to what seems like a less expensive location. Your wedding can be everything you want it to be!
Church Weddings
Advantages:
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It can be difficult or impossible to get permission to have your wedding
in most churches unless you are a member.
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Religious
conversion or at least extensive counseling is usually required.
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In interfaith marriages, the person who is not a member (and her/his
family) feels left out, and has less say in the ceremony.
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They are not usually equipped with wedding decorations, which can cost
hundreds of dollars to rent. By the time the "extras" are brought in,
the ceremony can cost four or five times more than was originally anticipated.
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If you also want the reception there, you are usually forbidden from having
any alcohol, even for a champagne toast, and you're on your own when it
comes to such major logistics as cleanup.
Nondenominational Chapel Weddings (like Foothills Chapel)
Advantages:
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All faiths are welcome; everyone has an equal say and both families feel
welcome.
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The wedding ceremony will have a spiritual/religious quality to it without
requiring that both
parties to the wedding adhere to a particular creed.
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Chapels can be beautiful settings, with a traditional "feel" to the place.
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Wedding decor is easily available (ask if there are surcharges for the
use of this decor), greatly reducing wedding planning stress.
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Full-time wedding chapels often have assistants on hand to help you with
every aspect of wedding planning, so you'll feel more supported every
step of the way.
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The
architecture of a church building lends itself well to the sacredness
of the event.
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If you are a member of an active congregation, the church building where
you worship may not be the ideal location for your wedding. For maximum
beauty, or simply to fit all your guests in, ask your minister if he or
she is willing to perform your ceremony at Foothills Chapel.
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Wedding chapels are so popular, it's a good idea to reserve them early
or at least be flexible with your times.
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Some traditional churches are reluctant to recognize and bless a nondenominational
wedding.
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People with anti-religious sentiments may feel more comfortable in a banquet
room.
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People who love The Great Outdoors may prefer an outdoor setting.
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Even nondenominational chapels may have extensive religious symbols if
they were once a church: permanent crucifixes or highly denominational
stained glass, for example, which may conflict with the beliefs of the
couple, family and friends.
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If the reception hall is more than 30 minutes away from the chapel, guests
will complain. However, research has shown that guests generally do not
mind a drive of 30 minutes or less from the chapel to the reception facility.
Reception Halls
Advantages:
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A totally nonreligious, nonspiritual wedding is best held in an overtly
secular setting.
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It's convenient to have the wedding and reception at the same place.
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It may appear that you can save money by not renting out a church or wedding
chapel.
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Many reception facilities add a substantial surcharge (sometimes hundreds
of dollars) when you're having your wedding as well as your reception
with them. Or, if they charge by the hour, you'll have to pay for additional
hours.
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Reception halls specialize in receptions, not in weddings. Country clubs
specialize in serving their members, and wedding business is secondary
for them. That means the ceremony can be less important, and less carefully
tended to, than the reception.
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Guests
may have a hard time finding where the wedding is, especially at some
of the larger hotels, and may miss the ceremony entirely as a result.
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Hotels
are often designed to serve both corporate meetings and parties of all
kinds. As a result, many of them have a sterile, "corporate" feel. Whenever
looking at a location, stop, look around a bit, and ask yourself, does
this place look and feel like the place I really want to
get married in?
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The wedding is often set up in the corner of the hall, or near the bar,
and is not necessarily the most attractive setting. To make it as beautiful
as you would like it to be, you may have to rent more wedding supplies
for hundreds of dollars. Then, as soon as the ceremony is over, the workers
have to move the guests out, knock down all the chairs, and rearrange
the room for the reception. Many reception halls actively recommend
Foothills Chapel because they know we can do a better job with the ceremony,
and we make it easier for them to do what they do best.
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The
ceremony site may be noisy. In metro Denver, our ministers have seen weddings
take place next to a bar, by a busy street or highway, in an amusement
park next to a tooting train ride, in hotel lobbies full of patrons checking
in and out, in restaurants where diners have interrupted the wedding looking
for their waiter, by artificial indoor waterfalls where no one can hear
the officiate, and other locations which are definitely not conducive
to a quiet wedding ceremony. Ask about noise issues! Remember, too, outside
noise is generally not a problem for your celebratory reception, and some
facilities which are bad for weddings are ideal for receptions.
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The
formal photographs will look much more impressive at a chapel or church
than at a reception hall, in many cases. Having both a chapel and reception
hall also gives a much more interesting mix of backdrops for your photos.
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Family
members who are used to church weddings will be much more comfortable
with a church/chapel setting.
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When
you are shown where your wedding ceremony would take place, ask yourself,
"Is this the location I have always dreamed of for my wedding?"
Parks and Outdoor Locations
Advantages
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Couples
who enjoy the great outdoors often feel that a mountain setting will better
reflect their love of nature.
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It
may appear to be less expensive. Getting a permit to rent a group of covered
picnic tables is indeed inexpensive, so be sure you get the permit if
it is possible to do so in the location of your choice.
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Our
ministers have had outdoor weddings that have been interrupted by rain,
snow, sleet, hail, extreme wind, flooding, blasts of arctic air, even
a tornado. It is essential that there be an indoor backup plan
for every outdoor wedding!
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If
you have a permit, it guarantees your space in a park, but you also have
to enforce that by coming early and chasing others away.
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Even
with a permit, there is no controlling dogs, nearby frisbee games, and
other distractions. Generally, however, other people do respect the space
immediately surrounding a wedding.
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Parks
can be very noisy: boom boxes, noisy children and teenagers, souped-up
cars cruising by, barking dogs, soccer games, etc.
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If
you go higher up into the mountains, you can enjoy more isolation. Brides
and grooms who are used to hiking together will often find a special spot,
say, 1/4 mile away from the parking lot. When they get there, the older
family members and other guests in high-heeled shoes will have a surprisingly
difficult time getting to the chosen site. Some have also quickly become
severely sunburned.
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Be
very careful to ask guests if they anticipate any problems with high elevation.
We Coloradans are used to it, but our ministers have performed outdoor
weddings at 10,000-13,000 feet in elevation and have seen guests carrying
oxygen tanks along with them. Some of these people have had actual medical
crises at such high elevations. Even normal people, flying in from sea
level, are highly susceptible to severe headaches and other symptoms of
altitude sickness when the wedding is in a mountain setting.
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If
you are hoping to save money by having an outdoor wedding, you may be
in for an unpleasant surprise. If the reception is a potluck at a park,
you can indeed save money. But unless there are only a dozen or so in
attendance, most people have to rent and buy equipment to make their outdoor
wedding workable for their guests. See the section on "Homes and Back
Yards" for more information on renting things for your wedding.
Homes and Back Yards
Advantages
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A
home wedding is ideal for people who are looking for a casual, informal
setting. The "reception" afterwards can be more like a fun, easygoing
party.
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If
your wedding is very small, you can have it indoors or outdoors and save
money.
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Whoever
is hosting the wedding will have to spend a lot of time preparing for
it, and even more time cleaning up afterwards. Be sure the host understands
this!
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If
you have more than a dozen people in attendance, in most cases you will
have to rent a tent to be sure the guests are at least somewhat protected
from the elements. Our ministers have seen tents and archways get blown
down when the wedding is held outside, and outdoor unity candles almost
always blow out.
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We
have also seen some families "overdo" it, hosting the wedding and then
feeling compelled to do extensive landscaping, fencing, etc.
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Back
yard weddings are often interrupted by the next door neighbor's barking
dog, nearby roofers, construction work in general, lawn mowing (which
is very popular on weekends!), and other noises of the neighborhood. Neighborhoods
are generally at their noisiest on Saturdays; the second noisiest time
of the week is generally Sunday afternoons.
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Many
people who decide on a back yard wedding are shocked at the final cost.
Family members, eager to add a little "class" to the event, will want
to create a setting that is more than just a bare backyard. Because of
weather, a tent is essential. If you have to rent supplies, here are some
examples of how much you can expect to pay for the wedding supplies you're
not likely to have on hand:
Sample
Rental Costs for an Outdoor Wedding
Outdoor
Tent: $500-$2100
Purchase of plastic
plates, napkins and cutlery $1 per person
Large BBQ Grill:
$70
Rental of china,
crystal, cloth napkins, cutlery $2-6/person
Large cooking pots:
$15
Coffee pots:
$30
Candelabras (2): $50
Candles: $30
Archway:
$38
Columns:
$29
Vases for flowers
(2): $50
Registry bookstand:
$20
White lattice screen:
$30
Tablecloths:
$13 apiece
Skirting:
$21 per table
Tent lighting: $30
per light
Tables (8 guests
each): $9 each
Chairs (each):
$1-$5
Flowers:
$300-$1500
Where
Do You Want Your Wedding?
We
hope this information has been helpful. If price is a concern for you on
your wedding day, be sure you uncover all the "hidden costs" before making
a decision. Foothills Chapel's prices include so many extras, we truly believe
we are one of the greatest values you'll find anywhere in the state.
More
importantly, your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime experience. If you want to have your wedding outdoors or at a reception hall, now you
at least know what to look out for. But if you want a beautiful wedding
in a photogenic, inspiring church or chapel, we can help you make that dream
come true, usually for no more money than it costs to have your wedding
at a noisier, less attractive location. You don't have to settle for second-best!
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