
(To appear after the standard
or the alternative ring ceremony): If you decide to have a Unity Candle
in your ceremony, you will need two standard tapers and one large
candle in the middle. The two outer candles are lit just prior to
the ceremony, either by the ushers, the mothers of the bride and groom,
or other family members. If you are planning an outdoor ceremony,
lighting a Unity Candle is not possible. However, it is possible to
include the words below in the ceremony, with minor alterations, and
then to light the candle indoors afterwards.
The flame has traditionally
been thought of as a symbol of the spirit. __________________ and
___________________, you have learned much in your individual lives.
[Optional, if the mothers have lit the candles just before the ceremony:
Your mothers are both here to bless your marriage, and it is fitting
that they have lit the two individual candles you see here. For it
is they who brought you life, and taught you your first lessons about
love.] Your [other] family members, and friends, many of whom are
here with you today, have all been a part of your individual lives,
and have shared with you your hopes, your dreams, your triumphs, your
sufferings. But at some point the two of you met one
another, and something started growing between you that was not just
_____________ and not just _________________.
There's a special way
you are together that's just not like the way you've ever been with
anyone else. You have a way of sharing with each other, of laughing
and joking together, that's unlike with anybody else. That special
love you felt for one another continued to grow, bringing you to this
moment, when you are committing your love to one another, and building
a life together. Just as the flame you are about to light is not created
solely by either candle, so too is your love not the sole possession
or creation of either of you. As a symbol of the spirit of love that
has grown between you, I would like to ask you to light the Unity
Candle at this time. (This is another good time for a song, if you
wish to have music during the ceremony.)
Continue to Part 4:
Declaration of
Marriage
[Roses
Ceremonies] [To The Children]
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